We’ve come to the end (fingers crossed, knock on wood) of another lockdown. I’m writing this two days before we move from Level 3 to Level 2 in most of New Zealand following the Delta Outbreak.
For no reason other than luck, I had no weddings booked for over our Level 3 and 4 lockdown. If having to postpone your wedding day has been your experience, I’m so sorry. It will have been so stressful and disappointing, and I’m sure the stress and the heartache aren’t over yet.
I hope you’re able to find your way through the hurt to enjoy your wedding when you get to have it – whether what that looks like will have changed, or not.
After last lockdown I wrote about what your options for getting in married in my backyard could look like (not my literal backyard, the slide and trampoline don’t make for a very romantic backdrop). I stand by it all.
But today I’m going to write a little bit about me instead. Sort of a ‘get to know your celebrant’ post. Since it’s fresh in memory, what did I do over lockdown?
I baked. A. Lot. We ate snickers slice and butterscotch fingers and homemade crackers and bread and brownie.
I made a pair of pants. Sort of. I learned ponte double knit doesn’t behave exactly how you want it to when making stretch drop crotch leggings. As a result the next pair of pants I make will be better.
I listened to a lot of Ian Rankin Inspector Rebus crime novels. I think I started thinking in a Scottish accent for a while there.
We planted seeds. So far, we’ve only successfully germinated two radishes, five lettuces and three beetroot plants.
I read with our two kids, baked with them, refereed a lot of fights, watched them jump on the trampoline, sent them off on quite a few scavenger hunts and reaffirmed that I am not a teacher and don’t ever want to be one.
What do I do when we’re not in lockdown?
I bake, just less and less fiddly things. I started going to the pool to swim lengths this year. Talking myself into the pool that first time was hard. But even on the days when the monkeys in my head are screeching a lot, I can channel Dory (just keep swimming, just keep swimming) and by the time I get out I feel pretty great.
I also work part time at Scott Base (the vineyard not the Antarctic Research Base, that would be a hell of a commute!) in the Cellar Door. And part time for The Kitchen Garden as the beautiful assistant at cooking demonstrations and private chef gigs, behind the scenes queen and head cheerleader.
I like a gin and tonic. And a coffee. I used to hate both of those things, I’m not entirely sure what changed. I’m assuming I just got older.
I’m a peer supporter with Mums 4 Mums in Alexandra. The easiest way to describe what we do, is to say, take a look at our Facebook page here https://www.facebook.com/mums4mumsalexandra
I became a celebrant after a career in radio broadcasting. Because I was used to using microphones and my voice, I was asked several times to give readings at friends and family’s weddings. I did it enough times that standing up in front of large groups of people stopped being scary. And I realised if I became a celebrant I could combine my two oldest loves – words and being nosy.
I’m married to the lovely Clement. This June just been marked 21 years since we first got together. And this coming January will be our 16th wedding anniversary. I totally get what it is to be overwhelmed by thoughts of ‘what does a wedding ceremony even look like?’ partly because we were young when we got married, we had been to exactly one wedding before our own. It’s why I work how I work now. Spoiler alert, a lot of options, a lot of guidance, a lot of ideas, no dumb questions.
Case and point. And yes, I will wear it to your wedding if you want me to. Pic thanks to https://www.alyssadrake.com/weddingphotography/
Goodbye Pork Pie (the original), Tremors and The Blues Brothers are still some of my favourite movies.
And my favourite parties are the potlucks where everybody brings a fabulous dessert because we ‘forgot’ to allocate anyone to do mains or salads.
That’s me! Whatever brought you here, look after yourself and those around you x.
And if I sound like I could be the celebrant for you, get in touch and we’ll talk some more. Scroll down to contact me!
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